Isa sa mga phase ng isang break up is letting go. I must admit, it is not easy. I’ve been in that situation so many times and I found out that it will never happen overnight. It takes time.
There was a time when I’m in the process of letting go of someone and I was reading the book Eat, Pray, Love. This book helped me go through with everything. In the book, Liz received this poem, written by a plumber from New Zealand, and was given to him by his friend Richard from Texas, before her final ritual of letting go of her marriage. After finally letting go of her marriage, she did a handstand on the rooftop of the Ashram. The poem goes like this:
INSTRUCTIONS FOR FREEDOM
1. Life’s metaphors are God’s instructions
2. You have just climbed up and above the roof. There is nothing between you and the Infinite. Now, let go.
3. The day is ending. It’s time for something that was beautiful to turn into something else that is beautiful. Now, let go.
4. Your wish for resolution was a prayer. Your being here is God’s response. Let go, and watch the stars come out – on the outside and on the inside.
5. With all your heart, ask for grace, and let go.
6. With all your heart. forgive him, forgive yourself and let him go.
7. Let your intention be freedom from useless suffering. Then, let go.
8. Watch the heat of the day pass into the cool night. Let go.
9. When the karma of a relationship is done, only love remains. It’s safe. Let go.
10. When the past has passed from you at last, let go. Then climb down and begin the rest of your life. With great joy.
Letting go, for me, is the perfect time to re-asses yourself and what happened. At this stage, it’s easy to focus on the great parts of your relationship, but there was a reason you broke up. Don’t ignore the “bad” parts keep reminding yourself that you’re letting go of the past because holding on to it isn’t good for you.
Also, part of letting go of someone you love is accepting that you may never have all the answers. There are just things that we have no power of. We should accept that we have no control of everything. Believe me, it will be easier.
Most importantly, rebuild yourself. This situation will make you a different person — a better, more unique, more compassionate being. Instead of mourning what was or what could have been, start something new in your life. Take a solo vacation, join a class, discover your talents. Rebuild your life and set new life goals.
I’m not saying its gonna be easy. Life is too short to do silly things other that moving forward. Just let go.